he’s just ‘not’ that into you

hello, it’s me again. i decided to give you a movie review! yay! so, i was bored just now during the quarantine time, and thanks to my brain, i brought portable dvd player to school. I watched a movie he’s just not that into you. it was a great movie so i thought i could give you some reviews of it. i know that the movie is kinda old, it was released on 2009. but, umm, age doesn’t matter, right? 🙂

the genre is definitely drama and romance. it is about love life. the contents of the movie is basically true. and when i watched it, i feel like yeah, true true. i definitely LOVE this movie, a lot! there are lots and lotsa sweet things a guy can do. and the way the guy proposed! better watch it fast, and melt! the actors and actress are jennifer aniston, scarlett johansson, kevin connolly, jennifer connelly, and many more.
amazingly, there are a lot of lessons to be learned from this movie! there are nine actually.
  • TIMING: you have to know when to walk away and that is when you finally discover in your partner something that you cannot live with. in the film, an example of this was when Jennifer Connelly’s character saw that her husband was a liar. she decided to move on rather than to stay in a relationship with no trust.
  • KNOW WHAT YOU MOST NEED: think about the top qualities they want in a mate and how they wish to be treated. we notice that when Jennifer Aniston’s character leaves her boyfriend and she notices how other husband’s act, she reflects on all the good qualities of Ben Affleck. she realizes that he does give her what she needs.
  • DON’T BE ATTACHED TO THE PACKAGE: this one is a reminder that there are always exceptions to our preconceived notions. we may think we want someone blond and then we fall in love with a brunette. Both Gigi and Jennifer Aniston’s character thought they knew what they wanted and were surprised. Jennifer Aniston’s character thought she only wanted marriage but when she saw that her partner was already everything she’d want in a husband, she changed her mind.  Gigi thought Justin Long’s character was just a friend in the beginning and it was only later that she thought of him romantically. Then even later, he thought of her that way. So, the axiom that ‘you’ll know right away’ also isn’t always true! Things evolved in a surprising way with time and the characters needed to experience things and be open to new learning.
  • HAVE HIGH SELF-ESTEEM:  When we are in low self-esteem we invite and accept poor treatment. We are shown this again and again in the film. The desperation of these women reminds us of a hundred characters in our own lives because they so clearly are dying to be loved. While this is human, it is only when each one starts thinking about what is good for her that things shift. Anna chooses not to date the married man anymore.
  • GIVE THINGS TIME: We can’t really expect a guy to fall in love with us during the first day. If he did, he’d be in love with a fantasy because he can’t really know you. So, you also need to give things time to get to know each other.
  • DON’T SETTLE OR LIE TO YOURSELF: Sometimes women are so afraid that they won’t find someone that they try to force something that feels wrong.
  • RECOGNIZE COMMON DEFENSES AGAINST LOVE: Men and women often protect themselves from getting hurt in love.
  • EVERYONE IS SCARED & INSECURE: If we look at most of the character’s in the film, they show some insecurity or signs of fear when it comes to love.
  • LOVE IS POSSIBLE: Although this movie starts out epitomizing the suffering involved in dating, there are a number of happy endings so one leaves with at least the hope that love is still possible. 
see, just from a movie, you can learn so many things. and here are some quotes:

“if a guy wants to be with a girl, he will make it happen, no matter what.”

“so trust me when i say if a guy is treating you like he doesn’t give a shit… he genuinely doesn’t give a shit.”

“we are all programmed to believe that if a guy acts like a total jerk that means he likes you.”

“Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we’re told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we’re so focused on finding our happy ending we don’t learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don’t, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn’t include a guy, maybe… it’s you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is… just… moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope.”
so guys, if you have time, i really recommend you this movie. it is so uh-mazing! watch it and you will never regret it. that’s it, thanks for reading! ♥
x kimberlysubi

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