2 days ago, a friend asked me, “why does God allow heartbreak?” it gets me thinking up until this moment. i, myself, am blurry about this situation. so today, i might have the “answers” to that question. and mostly are just my opinions, so, here it is.
heartbreak, heartbreak, and another heartbreak. somewhere in your school, there will always be someone who is struggling with a heartbreak. somewhere down the streets, there will always be someone who is breaking another’s heart. somewhere in the hallway of a hospital, there will be someone who is not only hurt mentally, but also physically, because of a heartbreak.
heartbreak, it’s a natural thing. from time to time, people will break your heart, and let me tell you, heartbreak is not a small issue, it can destroy you inside out. it’s not just a mere sadness, it’s an overwhelming distress that will affect you significantly, it may change the way you behave in the future, it may become a traumatic event.
there are many different situations of heartbreaks: for example, unrequited love – when your love towards that person is not returned. or when your loved one had an affair with another person. or when you lost your loved ones forever…
many people responded to heartbreaks by searching for other sources of happiness, though it is just a temporary happiness, such as drinking, taking drugs, etc. but really, if you do that, you’re just escaping from the truth, you are being a coward, and in the end of the day, the pain will even be more inevitable to be ignored. and sometimes people will blame God for what happened to them, or grow bitter and showed hatred towards Him. i won’t judge, i think this is a natural reaction. it is called being a human. but, it’s wrong. don’t blame it on God. God does not break your heart, people do. however, sometimes He allows it for your own goodness.
“A heart break is just a blessing and protection from God. It is just His way of letting you realize that He saved you from the wrong one.”
when love leaves, it’s brutal. maybe we don’t want it to leave. or maybe we know it is better of if it leaves, but we could not just give it up. when love leaves you, it breaks through your heart, creating a wound that you think will never heal. but you don’t realize that you have a superbly awesome God who can heal all your wounds, all your heartbreaks. (He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds. –Psalm 147:3)
now i’m sure if God lets someone you really love leaves and breaks your heart, He is preparing a place for someone else to stay in your heart, someone who will never leave you, someone who is perfect for you, someone who accepts you for who you are, someone who completes you, someone from God, and someone who is better in every aspects than that person who leaves. if you have faith in Him, it will happen. trust Him, let Him control your life, understand Him.
or maybe, he/she is the right person for you, but it is not happening at the right time. so God put a pause right now and who knows when He will unpause your relationship. so if that person leaves you, keep trusting on God’s will and His way. if they are the right person for you, they will come back and fate has brought both of you back together. and if not, prepare for someone better. everything happens for a reason, and i know that God’s timing is always perfect.
another reason is that maybe He wants to discipline you, in Hebrews 12, it says that God loves you that He wants to discipline you, and as you all know discipline is not an enjoyable process, but it shapes you up into a better person. (“For the LORD disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.” Hebrews 12:6) maybe all this time when you are with that person, you don’t realize that you are not putting God above any other things, maybe you grow distance with God, maybe you are turning to a different person, and God wants you to get back on track. so He lets the person you love to break your heart. and then when you are feeling rejected and helpless, He wants you to discover or rediscover His love towards you. He wants you to realize that He alone, is enough for you. and He wants you to realize that His love never fails, He will never break your heart, and that there is no other love comparable to His. it is BIG, constant, unchanging and beautiful. trust me, this is hard to take in, but sometimes you have to learn things the hard way, and it sucks.
okay so maybe i have not answered the question perfectly yet. but it’s a good start, isn’t it? right now if you’re having a heartbreak, always remember that you have all the power to overcome it, you can start a relationship, and so you can also end one. start praying to God, ask Him to fill up the emptiness in your heart, and He will, He is more than willing to do it. because GOD is LOVE.
“love is a funny thing, it has the potential to bring the greatest happiness or the most severe sorrow.”
keep the faith, spread the love,