He leads. He disciplines. He supports. He is responsible. He works hard. He inspires. He loves. He cares. He comforts. He listens. He is a role model. He is someone to look up to. He is a father.
Since today is Father’s Day, I’m going to talk a little about my father.
His eyes. He sees the best in people. If you tell him you feel like a failure at something, he will tell you how talented you are and that you should not give it up just yet because he believes that you can achieve it. He sees things in a positive way. Whenever obstacles come in his way, he does not complain. Instead, he sees it as an opportunity to grow and improve. I admire how he sees the world from a different perspective.
His mouth. He gives the best advice. He shares the most inspiring stories. He speaks the most encouraging words. One of the many advice he gave is about unity in family. He kept on saying that it is very important for a family to stick together. No matter how hard you work, how much money you make, if at the end of the day you are left with a bad relationship with your loved ones, it will all be useless. Do not think that he is the all-serious type of dad. He jokes around too. Well, to be honest, I cannot say that his jokes are the best, but they were not bad. At least, he can make me laugh. I admire how he encourages the people around.
His smile. He has the sweetest and most sincere smile. He always comes home smiling no matter how exhausted he was, no matter how rough his day was. He likes to smile to people, even strangers. He told me that once, he smiled to a stranger who looked like that he was having a rough day. And yup you guessed it right, the stranger smiled back to my dad. He loves to see how his smile can turn someone’s frown upside down. I admire how he smiles to make an impact.
His hands. He loves to lend a hand. Both hands actually.He loves to help people in any way he can. He helps others not to show or prove that he is capable of achieving something, but he helps with a genuine motive. He is blessed in many different ways, and he wants to give back. I admire how he uses his talents to help others.
His heart. He has a big heart that is so loving, so caring, so warm, so kind, and so genuine. I still remember the night when the electricity in my house went off, and I need to study for my exam the next day. He immediately suggested that he would accompany me study in a café. We ended up chatting, laughing, and simply enjoying the moment. He is selfless, and he puts others’ happiness on top of his. He is someone who is willing to sacrifice his comfort for his loved ones. I admire how his heart beats for others’ happiness.
I realized that fathers express their love differently than how mothers do. Fathers don’t kiss. Fathers don’t hug. Fathers don’t pamper. Fathers discipline because they love us. Fathers give a set of rules because they want to protect us. Fathers let you fall because they want to pick you up and let you try again. Fathers let you find your own way because they want you to learn. Fathers do not simply take pain away from you because they want you to grow. Fathers scold you when you break the rules, but they shine with pride when you succeed. Fathers have faith in you even when you fail. Fathers want the best for you.
We know that there is no such thing as a perfect father. My dad, too, is not a perfect dad. And I know that not everyone has the father figure they have always wanted. But know that you have a Heavenly Father who loves you unconditionally. Even when you leave Him, He never leaves you. Even when you fail Him, He never fails you. Even when you disappoint Him, He never disappoints you. Even when you reject Him, He loves you still. He is the father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5).
And guys, please do me a favor. If you are with your dad right now, give him a hug and say that you love him. If not then take out your phone, give him a call or even send him a simple text. It will mean a lot to him. Don’t wait, because for some of us, it is too late to do it.
Happy Father’s Day to all fathers out there, to my father Hasan Subianto, and also to all men who will be fathers some day. And oh, especially to my Daddy J, HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!
Thank you for being our dads!
Oh by the way, here are some pictures of dads I took around English Bay last night. Happy Father’s Day, y’all good daddies.